The dress featured in this post is the Plus Surplice Wrap Belted Pleated Glitter Dress 3XL . This dress is available in various colors, and was purchased from SHEIN. Click the link above to see the original post model pic. But, to see me, just proceed to the “Fabulousness” below.
In addition, to being comfortable, the dress is SUPER Pretty. I felt glamorous wearing it. The empire waist was flattering and the pleating on the bottom skirt added a nice vintage appeal to the piece. The puff sleeves added to the Grecian feel of the dress, further enhancing overall aesthetic of the piece. Needless to say, I received many compliments, and many inquiries on where to buy it. For more of my thoughts on SHEIN, and why I love this dress. CLICK HERE.
Fashion is the visible expression of an individuals character, passion, value and mood. Over the years, I struggled with acceptance of my appearance. Twenty years after childbirth, and I’ve never regained my pre-baby body. Oh Well! Body Positivity Baby!
After years of trial and error, I finally know myself, and my body! I’ve come to know what does and doesn’t work well for me. I felt compelled to help other Women discover their own “Stylespiration.” Out of a passion to help other Plus Size women, ChunkyCutieStyles was born. https://www.chunkycutiestyles.com/
If I had to describe my style, I’d say I’m Moderately Conservative. I’m Sassy, but Classy. 😊
ChunkyCutieStyles exists to recommend and assist Plus Size women in finding beautiful, modern, and trendy apparel and accessories without breaking the bank. Empowering women to be their best because you are Wonderfully made!
I can remember feeling frustrated going in and out of stores when I couldn’t find the items to create the looks I wanted to achieve. Sometimes, I think Plus Size women are not given great selections. The difficulties are further compounded for Christian women, who seek to be trendy yet conservative.
I’m glad to see the Retail Industry is becoming a lot more style inclusive. And I’m working diligently to seek to partner with brands that I believe my audience will also love and trust. I love you all, and we are in it to win it! Be Bold. Be Beautiful. Be You!
I’m new to the Blogosphere, and I’m loving it. I want this blog to be a blessing to all who visit this site. I hope to have 1 million followers one day soon. But, it’s not about me, or what I want. After all, I was called and sent to preach one message, Christ, and Christ crucified.
This is what is known as the Good News Gospel!
Many in the world are getting ready to celebrate the birth of Christ on Christmas. There will be Christmas Cantata’s and carolers singing, “Joy to the World for the Lord has Come, Let Earth receive her King” ………
As we prepare for the upcoming holiday season, I can’t help but replay the line; “Joy to the World for the Lord has Come.” And, I wonder how many of us may have forgotten, or perhaps rarely consider that not only has the Lord already come, but he is yet still COMING. Indeed, Earth will one day again receive her King. BUT, are we ready for his return?
FAITHFUL AND TRUE WORDS
Are we ready for Christ’s return? In asking this question, I consider the state of my own heart, the state of our World, and I am sad to say we are not ready for his return. Truth is we should be making ourselves ready every day. We should also be helping each other to get ready as well. Instead, we fall prey to division, feuding and petty arguments.
As for myself, I have been guilty of letting myself become distracted with petty arguments and feuds. But, at this very moment I hear the Lord saying, “Pursue Peace with all men if at all possible” (See Romans 12:18 NIV). I especially love the message version which says: “Don’t hit back; Discover beauty in everyone. If you’ve got it in you, get along with everybody. Don’t insist on getting even; that’s not for you to do” (Romans 12: 17-19 MSG). From a heavenly perspective,I don’t have time to be upset over petty arguments. Neither do you!
Come Lord, Come!
Christ is returning, and there are so many people who need to hear the message of Love and Redemption. In Revelation, the Lord say’s he is coming back with his rewards. He will be handing to every man the reward for his deeds, but to those who washed their robes and made themselves ready, they will have the right to the Tree of Life, and will be able to enter Eden, Paradise.
People need to know Christ died for their freedom. People need to know that you don’t have to earn Heaven, Christ earned it for them. People need to know all they need to do is Believe! Believe, Jesus is the Son of God. Believe, he died; rose again, and is yet still alive! For some, the Cross is utter Foolishness, but to whoever will believe, the Cross is the Power of God to those who are being Saved (See 1 Corinthians 1:18).
Therefore, I Urge You……
Dear Church Folk, my Dear Brothers and Sisters, Let’s Get over ourselves and be about Our Father’s business. From the beginning of time, the Kingdom of Heaven has been forcefully advancing, and forceful people are attacking it (See Matthew 11:12 NIV). The Kingdom is upon us Now! Let us Act. Let us Love. Let us Heal. Let us Care for the orphan and the Widow. After all, our service is our worship to him.
Lord, I am sorry I let the cares of this life distract me even for a moment. I am mindful of your grace; in my weakness your strength is perfect. I’m very weak right now, so I trust you to be Very Strong thru me. I am Blessed because of you.
I’m a Blessed Woman, only because I am willing to let God display his power and love to a dying world thru me. After all, God still loves this world very much, even though the world doesn’t love him back.
I’m a dreamer. Today, I take
delight in this assertion. Admittedly, this was not always the case. I’m also
an empathic, romantic idealist (which basically means I sometimes I prefer to
see things the way they could be, rather than what is).
Trust me, this is not always
as endearing as it sounds. I hated these labels because people often mistook me
for being weak, naïve and emotional, as If being mindful of your emotions and
the feelings of others somehow makes you incapable of being rational.
Nevertheless, today I take
great pride in who I am, and in the person, I am becoming. I fully confident in
Jesus, who is the author and finisher of my faith.
I Had a Dream….
Last week, I dreamt I was 9 months pregnant, and I was once again in a relationship with my Ex. I was so happy, then I began to go into labor. However, rather than go to the hospital, my ex began speaking into a microphone in front of a crowd.
As he spoke about another
woman, I was embarrassed. I remember being astounded at his lack of empathy for
how his words and actions were affecting me. I was hurt, and I no longer wanted
to be in a relationship with him. Then, my contractions ceased, and my labor
stopped. So, the dream ended with me being way past the due date, and unable to
give birth to the baby I was carrying.
I knew the dream was a
message from God for my life (Yes, God still speaks to people see Acts
2:17). So, I asked him to give me an
interpretation, and he did!
For me, 2019 has been a year
of intensely seeking God’s will and plan for my life. While I was keenly
focused on seeking the Kingdom of Heaven (see Matthew 6:33), I enjoyed:
ability to hear from God
As the year progressed,
several distractions began to surface. These external influences threatened to
erase the growth I had attained and attempted to keep me from growing any
Some people are afraid to
enter a relationship with Christ, because they are afraid of living a
restrictive life. For many years, all people ever heard about the Christian
life was what they “can’t do” where they “can’t go”, or “what they “can’t
wear.” We tend to blame God for our unhappy situations. However, as the Apostle
Paul expressed in 2 Corinthians 6:12, it is not the gospel which restrains us,
but we are restrained by what we highly esteem and value. It is not that we
should not aspire to accomplish goals, but we should be careful not to consider
our own self-ambition over the plan and will of God. We should always remember God’s primary plan
is to prepare a Bride for his Son, Jesus. And, we our lives should be aligned
to accomplish this mission, everything else is secondary.
In my dream, I was pregnant.
The pregnancy was symbolic of the gift the Lord has paced within me, meant to
be shared with the world. However, when I allowed my focus to be redirected to
my ex, my labor ceased. My ex was on a stage and speaking into a microphone.
This meant I had placed or was beginning to place a higher importance on my own
desires. I was beginning to serve my own needs, rather than serving others. Therefore,
the gift God placed in me was being hindered.
I am not going to let this happen
to me or to you! Below are four ways to
live an unrestrained life:
Know your own
Limitations and put the proper boundaries in place. When we are being tempted, we are being
tempted by our own desires, not by God. (See James 1:14)
Be Anxious for
Nothing, make your requests Known. Pray About Everything. Be patient in hope. Waiting only increases
the Joy you will experience when your desire is fulfilled. (See Philippians 4:6)
Be mindful of
the company you keep. Surround yourself with people who are honest and
encouraging. Form the right alliances, can light have fellowship with
darkness? (See 2 Corinthians 6:14)
faithfully and with all your heart. God will give you your reward. You don’t
have to strive to force things to work in your favor. (See Colossians 3:23-24).
I love the new life and freedom I have found
in Christ. Yet, there are times when I am reminded of my own shortcomings and
I don’t always respond to
every situation in the most Christ-like manner, and at times I still wince at
an engagement video or wedding photo from time to time. However, I believe the Lord was telling me
not to allow myself to become too wrapped up in the things that I
want to accomplish.
Perhaps, you too are waiting to receive the promises of God for your life. Or, maybe you need a resolution to a very difficult problem. Well, take heart God sees you, and he knows exactly what you need. Seek Be anxious for nothing and PRAY about everything. May God’s grace and peace be upon you, and I hope you all are empowered to DREAM BIG.
We are often willing participants in our own victimization, and
I hate that. I equally abhor how we stay in disappointing relationships longer
than we should. So, the question is “Why do we stay in relationships long past
their expiration dates?” So, to better understand this behavior, and why I
engaged in such self-defeating behavior for so long (and on more than one occasion),
I prayerfully began to explore this topic and discover my own truth.
My most recent relationship lasted for about 6 ½ years. He
was unlike anyone I had ever dated before. However, early in the relationship
he told me that he had no peace in moving forward in building a long-term future
with me. Granted he was guilty of sending mixed signals, but this isn’t about
him, this is a self-examination of my own defeating behaviors. And self-examination
is the starting point for growth, (Soooooo, two times for growth! WHOOP WHOOP!).
Self- Defeating Behavior?
Self- defeating behavior is any behavior that takes you
further away from anything you truly want. It is sabotaging your own health,
well-being and happiness. It is doing what you know is not good for you to do. According to Practical Recovery, some common
self-defeating behavioral patterns include:
Stubbornness: needing to always be right
People pleasing: at the cost of your own
happiness or health
Obsessing about perfection
Blaming: inability to accept responsibility for
your own mistakes
Inability or refusing to ask for help
Fear of taking healthy risks
Negative Self talk
Self-guilt and feeling undeserving of good
things in life
After examining this list, I realized that I possessed and
demonstrated ALL these behaviors at one point in my life. Thank God for his
Grace and mercy which allows for growth. But, for years I was bound, I was a
prisoner in my own mind, and I didn’t even know it. These worldly, and inferior
mindsets robbed me of the opportunity to have a healthy and viable relationship.
Don’t let this happen to you!
First, I used to think he was way out of my league, that he was
a person that I should aspire to be like. While, I don’t think it was wrong of
me to admire his good qualities, it was WRONG that I believed I possessed no good
qualities of my own. So, the issue was that I was blind to my own value. I was oblivious
to my own loveliness. Honestly, because I
lacked Identity, I shouldn’t have been trying to date anyone. I believe, this
is one of the reasons why the bible tells us not to awaken or arouse love
before it’s proper time (See: Song of Solomon 8:4).
Secondly, I had low expectations and I failed to set
standards. I was hopelessly short-sighted, and I had no real vision for the type
of relationship I wanted. In conjunction
with the first reason, if you don’t know who you are, it is IMPOSSIBLE to know what you
truly want or Need for that matter.
Lastly, I thought I could change him. Now, this is more
difficult to admit. Of course, there are other reasons, I stayed, (but Whew, Chile we only have
time for 3 today 😊). I
should have listened to him when he first told me, he had no peace in moving
forward. I ignored the flags. In hindsight, I really believed that he would see
things from my perspective, and we could move this thing along. However, all
this did was force the both of us to live a lie, and not living according to
your conviction is hypocrisy. And, hypocrisy murders your spiritual life, and diminishes
your peace and your credibility.
Truthfully, this isn’t the first relationship in which I
adopted such grandiose delusions of erroneously thinking, “I could change” another
human being. Especially, since it is the work of the Holy Spirit to change an
individual. I am convinced that we grossly overstep our realm of authority when
we attempt to change or control someone, this is manipulation. Manipulation is as witchcraft; IT IS
NOT OF GOD! I have been guilty of this before, I’m sure we
all have at some point. Thank God for Grace and Mercy!
The point is, staying in a relationship past its expiration
date does more harm than good. I wish I had exited the relationship 6 ½ years
earlier, then maybe today we would still be Friends. Now, if you find that you
are currently in the same situation as I just described, then I encourage you
to be honest, and seek help with moving towards transitioning out of your unhealthy
Today, I am more content with my singleness, and learning to
be more content day by day. I still desire a Godly marriage, but that desire does
not rule me. I know the next time will be the right time, and the right time is
God’s best time for my life. I Trust you LORD.
3 Ways to
Move towards Wholeness:
Examine yourself: Examine your ways and your
circle of influence. Are you seeing good results? Are you growing, or are you
diminishing as a result of your actions? Your interactions? (See Lamentations
3:40 and Matthew 7:3-5)
Set Standards For yourself: You teach people how
to value and respect you based on what you tolerate from them. You must know
your value, which means you must first pursue inner healing, and renew your
mind. Stop the negative self-talk. Be honest, kind and compassionate to
yourself first. Be Authentic. (See Romans 12:2 and 2 Corinthians 10:5)
Accept that you can only change YOURSELF: Take
responsibility for your life. You can’t force someone to love you no matter how
badly you may want them to. Let them GO! You only want people in your life who
will Celebrate you, edify you and people who will have your best interest at
heart. You want people who will give you Honest feedback. (See Matthew 10:14)
The term metamorphic is an adjective relating to a rock that
has been transformed by undergoing a process involving heat, pressure or other adverse
conditions. If I had to choose only one truth that is common to all people on
earth, it would be that all people will at some point will have to face difficult
situations. Adverse conditions are as common to the human condition as birth,
growth, reproduction, love and death. However, we are not our circumstances, we
are victors OVER and ABOVE them.
A Time For Everything……
I’ve experienced every season of life. I’ve had ups, and downs. I’ve been in and out of love. I have celebrated successes and mourned over failures. Yet, as this very moment in my life I can say with a heart full of gratitude, that I would not trade places with anyone else. My story is mine…….ALLLLLLLL Mine!! All my story hasn’t been pretty, and I’m still dealing with the consequences of bad decisions, but I am no longer just surviving, but I am thriving! And, it’s all because of the Love, and Grace of My Heavenly Father.
Yes, I do have some regrets, but regrets are just proof that I’ve gained the wisdom I was supposed to gain from each lesson of my life. I use to suffer from having an inferiority complex and struggled with low self-esteem. I was paralyzed with fear and would often not take advantage of new experiences, while sabotaging great business opportunities, and relationships. I believed life held no joy, and good things wouldn’t happen for me because it seemed as if everything in my life was going wrong. I lacked peace of mind, and I had no Joy. I was overwhelmed, confused and alone.
Life is Like A Game of Chess
Life is like a game of chess, every move you make can be either an advantage or a disadvantage, but we are to keep moving forward. Today, I feel like the Apostle Paul, “Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me.” (Philippians 3:12-14). I can not pretend that I have attained all of the goals that I have set for my life, nor can I say at this moment that I have the man of my dreams (since I’m still single), but I can honestly say that I enjoy the growth and wisdom I have gained from every trial, and every experience of my life.
Now, the Just Shall Live by Faith………
I am learning everyday what it means to live by faith. I
have a joyful expectation that God will give me the desires of my heart.
Although, for now I am in a season of waiting, I am experiencing the Lord’s
faithful provision for my life. More importantly, I know that I am seated in
the Heavenly Places with Christ. Challenges and problems seem so small from
this ascended position, and I am anxious for nothing.
I am more aware of his presence, and I hear him speaking to me more clearly than the day before. I AM so in love with him and his good plan for my life. Faith without works is pointless, and I am excited to learn new skills, enjoy new cuisines, travel to new places and meet wonderful people. I know that in order to elevate to the new heights and levels God is taking me to will require Faith, Courage and Boldness. There will always be challenges to face, and obstacles to overcome, but Christ has already overcome them all. So, until then I’ll be dancing, and embracing all the joy my heart can hold. I’m here for it ALL !
is everywhere; it’s the new buzzword, the new favorite among those looking to
shed pounds, and the new hate victim of the
food-pyramid-spouting-eat-your-whole grains mainstream medical industry. The
keto diet, while it is not the magic cure-all for every single disease on the
planet, does a pretty dang good job at being the potential causer of healing many horrible conditions. So, let’s cut
through the science, separate fact from fiction, and look at the benefits of
the keto diet.
Benefit #1: Weight Loss
so this one isn’t so astounding, but it is one of the most common reasons
people embark on the keto diet. So why is weight loss usually so easy on the
ketogenic diet instead of other regular diets? For all the following reasons:
• The keto diet is composed of approximately
75% fat, 20 % protein, and 5% or less carbohydrates. The high fat content and
lack of sugar means diminished cravings, lack of blood sugar swings and binges,
and increased satiation. Increased satiation=eating less. Many people also have
food sensitivities to grains, even gluten-free ones, so eliminating them may
lead to an increased ability to absorb minerals like magnesium and potassium,
which in turn means your body is more nourished and you have fewer cravings
• Ketones. When your blood sugar is running
low, your body turns to its glycogen stores for energy. Typically, glycogen
stores house about 2000 calories of “backup” energy for when you run
out of glucose. Like the intelligent machine it is, your body depletes the glycogen
stores and then turns to your own body fat for fuel.
ketogenic diet is not a free-for-all
eat however much cheese or super low-carb fat bomb treats you want diet. If you
are eating way more calories than you need, you will not lose weight. So, focus
on keeping your diet around fatty cuts of grass-fed meat, butter, eggs,
avocados, lots of green veggies and cruciferous, and be modest with the keto
desserts, dairy, and sweets.
Benefit #2: Brain Function
poorly functioning brain, as you may have already experienced, leads to
lessened work productivity, which in turn means an unhappy boss, lack of job
satisfaction, sugar cravings for energy, and depression. It’s a horrible domino
effect. The original ketogenic diet was formulated by Dr. Russell Wilder in the
early 20th century to treat epilepsy. The success rate was phenomenal, and it
is still used today to treat epilepsy and other brain disorders. Research also
indicates that ketones are more efficient brain fuel than glucose. (Source: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5102124/)
If you’re reading this article now, chances are that you are probably like me. I was recently diagnosed as pre-diabetic, and truthfully it scared me. I am proud to be Chunky, Cute and Christian, and I want to be at my absolute best so that I may serve in the Kingdom of God with vigor, and passion. So, if you may have found yourself in the same predicament as I am, then let’s use this information, don’t just skim through it and store it in the back of your brain and say “that’s nice for some people”, motivate yourself to change. Always consult with your physician. Remember, We Can Do All things through Christ who strengthens Us.